People can change until they take their last breath.
— Alton R. Jorgenson
I was asked recently to write a question for “Blogversation 2012” – an engaging way to bring together writers and bloggers in conversation. My high school classmate, Colleen Newvine Tebeau, launched this project with the idea that bloggers could become a greater part of the whole, converse and ask questions – given distance and time constraints – and open themselves to more diverse topics and ways of thinking. Her blog is http://newvinegrowing.wordpress.com/, and I urge you to go back and see what conversations have taken place so far.
The post I wrote for her, is as follows, but it brought up more questions than I address here. My mind has taken off like a butterfly, soaring and seeing things in a way I am looking forward to expressing over the next few weeks. Please feel free to join in the discussion, either here or over at Newvine Growing. The more the merrier!
What have you done when some life-altering, goal changing event has happened to you?
Has your entire perspective changed? If you had to make significant changes in your life, do you miss the person you were before, or have you embraced the changes? What happened to the original goal?
Recently life threw another hurdle at me to try an overcome – when I ruptured one of the muscles in my calf. This forced inactivity has me contemplating how to reinvent the wheel, when I have four active children going in four different directions and my inability to walk, let alone drive.
This injury also has forced me to give up my goal of riding a century (100 miles) on my bike this fall. I had been working up to this event all summer long, pushing my body and keeping my eyes focused toward the pride I would feel at accomplishing my goal.
In a split second, in the middle of dance class, my life changed. I am forced to give up my goal of riding the century this fall, let alone in 2012. I must miss auditions for the 10th anniversary of our studio’s production of “The Nutcracker,” and quite possibly find myself, for the first time in years, in the audience instead of on stage performing.
This isn’t the first time I have had to release a goal from my clutches. I had a very successful career when my husband and I discovered we were going to be parents. After many heartfelt discussions, it was decided one of us would stay home with our child (little did we know we would have four) and put their career on hold. Since I made the least amount of money, it was felt practical that I become the stay-at-home parent. I will admit this was not a decision I embraced fully and I resented it for a long time. I felt forced into a choice I didn’t want to make, and was unhappy.
I could add to the list: when my parents died and I was left without my compass, forgetting who I was in the process of grieving, realizing they would never see my children grow up; the birth of child 2, 3 and 4 – changing how I viewed life and the people in it, and pushing back my dream of returning to the workforce; even buying a house away from the hustle and bustle of a metropolis, and finding life a lot slower in a country town – making it quite difficult to be the social diva I would like to be.
For me, each time something has happened there has been a dip in my emotions, a period where I grieved over the loss of my goal. However, I have never been one to stay down for long. I look around and see what I can do to make my life better, what other goals I can make, if I truly have to give up on my original goal in the first place or merely shelve until a later date. Life is too short to live it with regrets or feelings of remorse. I hope I am seen as one who can move on, push the reset button, and be happy.
What kind of lemonade have you made, when life served you lemons?
To see the original post, please go to: http://newvinegrowing.wordpress.com/2012/08/16/blogversation-2012-what-have-you-done-when-some-life-altering-event-has-happened-to-you/
Thank you Colleen, for giving me this opportunity to write, as well as stimulating that part of my mind that was blocked for some reason. I look forward to engaging in further conversation with the other Blogversationists!